Overcoming the Obvious
It’s a beautiful thing when you can stand fully on self-awareness and authenticity. Both are the most peaceful things that you can monitor and show up in all your glory. You already know this, but I’m going to say it loud and proud! You are wonderfully made, and life is too short to keep on figuring ourselves out. Just be. The unconditioned you wants you back and it starts with your own self-awareness and showing up authentically in every room you take up space.
"Self-awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions, thoughts, or emotions do or don't align with your internal standards. If you're highly self-aware, you can objectively evaluate yourself, manage your emotions, align your behavior with your values, and understand correctly how others perceive you." - Psychologists Shelley Duval and Robert Wicklund
When you’re fully aware of who you are and WHO you belong to, there is no room for an unauthentic environment. In other words, we don’t do “fake” well. It’s obvious when you’re in a meeting or simply hanging out with your loved ones that you don’t, if any, spend time on things you can’t control because you can only control you. Controlling me and my lack of awareness used to be a challenge because I was always suppressing my feelings and when a trigger would come about, I didn’t have the discipline to be still in the moment and Let GOD!
When we lack self-awareness, we are not aware of ourselves and how we react to other people’s actions, non-actions, feelings, and emotions. Everyone is going through something, some better than others. Still, you are only thinking that you’re always on an island by yourself, and you must always prove, defend, and protect because you don’t know why something, or someone is making you feel uncomfortable on the inside. This is where the battle of you vs you reign, and you want to isolate as much as possible because you can’t sit in your own truth.
It's obvious you desire a connection with someone or/and community of people that get you. But guess what? Those people are not coming to you. You will have to seek them out. Ask yourself the following questions and assess where you stand on being self-aware and if you stand for correction to becoming emotionally involved with yourself and others.
Do you “act” differently when you are in social gatherings. (Be honest here) …laughing loud, over-talking, or doing things you would never do, if you didn’t have an audience.
Do you ride the fence with everyone you know because if you chose the side that’s aligned with your values, you would lose friends, so you choose the “popular” decision and now you’ve gone against all your values and standards to “people please”.
You observe others’ behaviors and conform to someone else’s identity just so you can fit in the crowd, because being yourself appears to be unpopular.
If you answered yes to any of these questions, this is a great way to monitor your self-awareness to becoming more confident and relatable with yourself and others.
When you are fully self-aware, you value yourself, and no matter the circumstance, you never deviate from your internal high standards. If you did, you would subject yourself to low-vibrational experiences, and you’re not built that way.
So now, let’s overcome the obvious. Mastering ourselves is a long-term commitment. Treat people the way you want to be treated, and always be transparent and authentic, no matter the challenge. Additionally, ensure that your GPS (God Positioning System) is aligned with who you are and how you can be an unrecognizable force in your life and in the lives of others. This is a new season for you; it will be uncomfortable. But that’s where the transformation begins.
Yours in Self Love,
Deborah Flemming Bradley
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Credits: Duval, S., & Wicklund, R. A. (1972). A Theory of Objective Self-Awareness. New York: Academic Press.